Improve connections with others using a Relationship Coach
Many people assume that the benefits of using a relationship coach are only for people that are already in a relationship and are having trouble communicating with one another. Nothing could be further from the truth as far as that is concerned. When it comes to the benefits of using a relationship coach, they can help both couples and individuals that want to improve their ability to communicate. For partners, it can help enhance the quality of their relationship, restore the passion that is missing, adjust to change in their relationship, or simply explore other underlying problems.
Translate a specific feeling
One of the benefits of using a relationship coach is that they can often translate the emotional desires that your partner has into something that you can understand, something that you can achieve. For example, when your partner tells you “they want to be happy” or “they want a better marriage” what does that mean exactly? Such open-ended statements may be next to impossible to achieve unless you have certain goals that you can aim for. Do you truly know what would make your partner happy? Does your partner know what would make a better marriage in your eyes? Using a relationship can help you articulate those needs and make them tangible, something that can be changed for the better.
Recognizing nonproductive behaviors.
You will have no doubt heard the phrase before that “you are not just dating your current partner; you are also dating all the people they have dated in the past.” When we are with someone, it would be strange if these previous relationships did not affect us some way. Therefore, it is important to not only look at your current partner, but also look at the relationships you may have had with previous partners. Just because something is not working with your current relationship does not necessarily mean that simply moving onto a new relationship would solve the problem – who is to say you would not simply have the same issues with a new relationship?
A relationship can help us determine where we are making mistakes, what the non-productive behaviors that we may take for granted are. It may be difficult to be critical of ourselves, and sometimes we may not even be aware of the very behavior that is causing the problem in the first place. If you want to identify and change the behaviors that are leading you down the same road repeatedly, your relationship coach can help. They are looking at your behavior from a different perspective and will be able to offer you solid advice based upon their experience.
Make goals that are attainable
The moment you have unattainable goals, it is going to cause frustration for both parties. This means that the relationship is likely to end unless you can narrow down these goals. One of the benefits of using a relationship coach is that they can help you break down your goals into small, manageable pieces. It is impossible to go from start to finish with a single step, and having a relationship coach help you through this process helps you avoid frustration that may have otherwise been put between you and your partner. This way you avoid distractions and get to the heart of the matter. By having a relationship coach assist you with identifying small goals (think doing something that the other person likes, making sure there is time to talk, small dates with your partner) you are moving forward in gradual steps.
Feedback and support
If you are having problems with your partner, especially if you have been together for a long time, it often means that the person you may otherwise have turned to for advice is now not available. You can have an anchor of available support when you have a relationship coach help you. This means that you do not have to carry the burden of a difficult part in your relationship by yourself. The great thing is that they will listen to your concerns, but will ultimately not reward bad behavior. This means that you get open and honest feedback without someone that you are emotionally attached to or invested in judging you.
Four important aspects
There are ultimately five important aspects to a relationship, boundaries, respect, communication, love, and cooperation. It is possible to have a relationship without one or more of these five, however, most people will find that the relationship does not feel like it is fulfilling one or more or their needs. Knowing how to move away from these behaviors/problems can help you get closer to your significant other instead of feeling as if you are “changing them.” This is not about a person having to change to be around you, using a relationship coach is ultimately about respect for one another and moving to a place where you can both be yourself to the fullest.